What gives me the authority to talk about what Step-Moms deserve on Mother’s Day? Over thirty years of service to four step-kids does! Now, it’s not so much the length of time as it is the journey. What society, statistics and birth moms have to say is not the point. Let me just say this, just because you give birth doesn’t make you Mom of the Year! Before anyone takes offense, please keep reading to fully understand the reason for my post.
Showing gratitude for your mom or your stepmom or anyone for that matter should not be restricted to one day a year. I think we can all agree on that! Step-moms accept any form of thoughtfulness because that is just who we are. Of course, I can’t speak for all but there are more that feel this way then you may realize. We have come to accept that we cannot compete with a biological mom. Frankly, it’s not a competition. She is the Mom! I, myself, am also a mom of three. Four, if you count my husband. Am I right Ladies? That is another post altogether! Ha! However, we take a lot of crap (for lack of a better word) because of that very concept.
Some would say, that I knew what I was getting into before I married him. I agree to a point. I was young (17) and he already had four kids and the ink was dry on the divorce papers well before I even met him. When we got together, marriage was the last thing on either of our minds. I waited six years before saying I do because of the hurdles we had to overcome to get to that point. During that time, my role was still the same regardless if there was a marriage license in place or not. Ours was one of those stories you heard about on Oprah or Dr. Phil. Mom just referred to me as the “babysitter.” Last I checked, babysitters were not 24/7/365!
I was there for the doctor and hospital visits, anything school related, conferences, those lovely teen years, prom, graduation, marriages, divorces, grandchildren, remarriages, deaths in the family including loss of a spouse. You name it! I was the one on call. I did so willingly and gladly. To this day, all four will tell you just who was really there for them and still is to this day.
I have seen the hurt in my husband’s eyes every time his visitation was repeatedly denied. I know the condition those kids lived in because she would not do what was best for them. Waiving child support was the only way to get full custody. We just wanted her to be their mom in every sense of the word. Guess that was too much to ask. My paycheck went to help support our family and always has. I am sure I am not the only stepmom who lives this daily! This started in the early 80’s. Now, it seems that these situations are at a whole new level. You can get more of understanding from a previous post Mom, The 25 Hour Day Job.
Moms come in many forms. Including those that are both mom and dad. Another sad situation where once again, the children draw the short straw. Step-Moms have been labeled with a certain stigma. If the shoe fits, so be it. However, before you go judging that step-mom, get her story first. Many kids don’t even know what really goes on behind the scenes and they really shouldn’t. They are often left to feel torn between the two and leaving them not to really show how much a step-parent means to them because they don’t want to cause hurt feelings or drama. I can understand that. Getting back to an earlier statement, I wish the “mom” would have stepped up as the title indicates. It would have made my life, just that “My Life”. I sacrificed my career and so much more just so they could have what they deserved; someone who was there for them!
You may be a mom, step-mom, grandmother, aunt or even a mom to a furbaby! Whatever role you took on, You deserve this recognition today and every day!
May you have a truly blessed Mother’s Day!
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